Manual Burtis: If you feel like you would be giving something up by having a non-religious ceremony, then you should rethink the marriage. Religion is a HUGE factor in a relationship, and rarely do two people with very different religious views create a healthy marriage. I'm sure that you love him, but one of you will have to "convert", or at least be tolerant enough to take part in a ceremony that expresses the other's beliefs.
Berry Gilmore: The only way you would be denying your faith is if you allow your boyfriend to control what you believe. Having a non-religious ceremony doesn't do that.You do need to talk about these things before you get married. After you get married, you're going to have things come up that you will have to discuss with each other and they won't always be easy or pleasant....Show more
Leif Serabia: It's not expected by most people with no class or sense of etiquette, but it's tacky, bad etiquette, and inappropriate to not have at ! least something alcoholic to drink available at no charge. A way to get around the open bar is to have a few bottles of wine on each table. Or, serve a 'signature' drink for free - like a Mojito, a Margarita, or Appletini. It's rude not to have anything available for your guests - would you have a party at your home and expect guests to pay for their drinks when they got a beer out of the fridge?...Show more
Leann Villalta: I'm getting married December 16, 2006. We decided to just do beer and wine. The biggest issue for us was the cost of the open bar. Also we were concerned with some of the guests over-indulging and causing a scene, which has happened at friends' weddings in the past. Good luck!
Amina Motzer: What is NOT said at your wedding does not deny your faith. You know what you believe and that hasn't changed. However, is your boyfriend unwilling to allow you some expression of your faith? It doesn't have to be a sermon, or a "beat everyone over ! the head" with Scriptures. Of course, I don't know you and the! whole story, but is this going to be a one-sided relationship? There's the old joke that in marriage two become one, and it's after marriage that you find out which one. I'd say it's much better to find out before the marriage which one. And should it be one or the other?Free Online Marriage Preparation Coursehttp://www.marriagepreparationonline.com...Show more
Gene Debell: I have found this to be a regional thing. In the Chicago area, open bars seem to be the norm. In Wisconsin, not so much.Generally speaking, if you are inviting guests to a party, asking them to pay for any expenses does not seem appropriate. Nonetheless, you could probably measure to local custom by the common practice at weddings you've attended in your area....Show more
Bernadette Roel: no tons of weddings have cash bars..or no bars at all..but usually in that case at least one bottle of wine or chapagne is provided per table for the toasting.
Jeff Frizzell: It is bad etiquette ! to have a cash bar. I think it is extremely tacky to have a cash bar. Although I am only a social drinker, I expect an open bar at a weddings. If there isn't an open bar, I don't lose any sleeps. Whatever you do, don't have a cash bar..Please.
Arnoldo Budzynski: You two need to discuss this. If you are afraid that it will upset him, then you need to seriously reconsider marriage.It is up to you how important a church wedding would be. If it means a lot to you, you shouldn't just give up on the idea simply because you are afraid it will upset your boyfriend. That is not a good way to begin a marriage! If he loves you, he will understand and you can both discuss what you want and hopefully find a happy medium (perhaps a JP officiant with a prayer during the ceremony?)...Show more
Dominic Sciancalepore: not all weddings serve booze and if you wish you could have a cash bar, that means if the guests wish to drink they must pay for it, an open bar you pay. s! o do what your budget allows.
Dee Depung: i was trying to plan a ! banquet party and all the facilities i called included standard open bar for 5 hours not the most expensive liquor but it had a good selection and the per person price was only $25 for meal and bar
Karie Mavle: Usually, open bars are expected at weddings, but you can do whatever you like at yours! Don't feel obligated to stick to tradition.
Giovanna Sherlin: it isnt expected..... it is VERY MUCH APPRECIATED by your guests....but not required
Derrick Smsith: We atheists have weddings too. :-) You can have a nice non-religious ceremony that celebrates your love and commitment for each other, but leaves out any references to religion. You can have your wedding in a venue besides a church and still have a lovely ceremony. Presumably you two have discussed the religion issue enough to reach a good level of compromise. HAving a non-religious ceremony will not deny your faith. Leaving religion out of the ceremony simply removes something that could possib! ly divide people rather than bring them together to celebrate your marriage. You can honor your faith by wearing a cross pendant or something like that if you want. That would be nice.Good luck. I should say, for the record, that you and your partner should probably do some pre-marital counseling to be sure that you can handle your religious differences. As an atheist, I know I couldn't marry anyone who thought I deserved to spend eternity in Hell. And as a Christian, you need to be sure that your partner is respectful of your beliefs although he does not share them. You also need to have serious conversations about these things and make sure that you're compatible. If you're afraid of upsetting him simply by bring up the subject, you need to think long and hard about whether you two are right for each other....Show more
Jannie Ariola: It isn't rude to not have an open bar at a wedding, but it is poor etiquette to have a cash bar. If you don't want drinking at ! your wedding, that is fine. But you shouldn't expect your guests to ha! ve to pay. Your guests are your guests- whether the party in question is at the reception hall or in your home. Would you have guests over for dinner at home and charge them for their drinks? Its the same concept. If money is an issue, maybe only have beer and wine, or a signature cocktail....Show more
Julienne Poplawski: free beer for a keg or 2. wedding's are crazy expensive these days....so i say no to open bar for cocktails.
Abel Adger: I want do a test run on some swetish meatballs is there anybody know a quick and cheap simple way of doing so please let me know. I want to have them at my reception.
Wally Perrien: Gosh No it is not expected! I dont think I have ever been to a wedding with a open bar. I didnt have one at mine.
Jimmie Doerfler: Why are you marrying an athiest? You will have trouble after you have children because he will probably be against you bringing up the children with organized religion. If I were you, I would not com! promise my faith for someone who doesn't believe in a higher power. Tell him that you want a religious ceremony, maybe by a minister, but not in a church. This is a compromise enough. Why are you worried about upsetting him, when you are so stressed out over this and he couldn't care less. Tell him you want a minister to preside over your ceremony and that is it!...Show more
Sol Allphin: My family is doing the cooking. And i want to do the appetizers myself.
Rana Rudell: I'm not aware of any rules regarding whether or not an open bar or cash bar is the proper thing to do. However, in my opinion, you are inviting guests to a party that you are hosting, and I personally would NOT expect my guests to pay for anything. We had an open bar at our wedding, and the cost was very affordable. Most places will give you a set price per person. One option to keep the cost down is to have beer and wine host bar and any other liquor is cash. It can help keep the guest! s from getting too wasted doing shots at the bar!...Show more
Elv! in Mannheimer: Cash bars look very cheap and do make people kind of mad because its already costing them to come to the wedding and they really dont want to pay for drinks. I can also assure you it wont be as fun of a wedding as it would be with open bar because I've found people tend to leave earlier or arent as social and talkative as they would be if drinking. I know it sounds sad, but often it does take booze to loosen people up. I had a really cheap wedding but I made absolute sure I had open bar because as long as you have that, people wont complain. They usually do complain about cash bars. Do whatever you can to have an open bar. I even know some people who wont even go to a wedding if its a cash bar. I also think if you have a cash bar you shouldnt expect much of a gift from your guests because booze is expensive. If I go to a cash bar wedding I limit the gift to $25 or less because the other $50 or so I would have given goes towards booze. It also gets pr! icy for couples. I guess its up to you though....Show more
Alexander Villas: Yes you have to have an open bar do not have a cash bar that is bad etiguette..
Debora Rinderer: I've sang at weddings for the last ten years. I've only been to maybe two or three with open bars. It's not expected...it's a surprise.
Antwan Schrum: no it is not rude. this all up to what the people having the wedding can afford
Pasquale Pollet: I am christian and my boyfriend is athiest and I want to have a wedding. But I dont want to make him upset by taking about it.
Curt Broadhead: It is very expensive to have an open bar. Most people don't usually have an open bar. It should never be expected. But if you do decide to have one, make sure there is some kind of limit or have the number of a taxi company.
Rana Rudell: We didn't give a flying fig if it was expected or not. Alcohol isn't cheap and we were on a budget. We did beer and soda and no one seemed to mind! .Also, I've noticed that people tend to drink more if it's free and we ! didn't want to worry about anyone getting drunk, drinking and driving or becoming obnoxious at the reception.
Lindsey Zanardi: If you're going to get married, you need to have an open system of communication, and it also means making compromises for one another. If you want a religious ceremony, you should tell him. If he says he doesn't want one, then you have grounds for a discussion. Whether it will be denying your faith, that depends on your faith. If you're catholic, then you're not adhering to the rite of marriage, and yes you are denying it. If you're protestant, I think they're a little more open about it. Nonetheless, if you want to marry this person, you need to be able to talk about these sorts of things. My first point of action would be to talk to him about that....Show more
Shamika Schools: No you're not denying your faith..what you believe in is between you and god. Nobody else! And what you choose is just so that things go smoothly but what you s! hould think about is what are your kids going to believe in. Because having two faiths can be very complicated especially when it comes down to what ur kids are going to believe in.
Lynn Mctier: usually open bars are expected. if you can't afford to do the whole wedding i'd say, even tho it's expensive, that you should at least do it for the cocktail hour. it is what most people do.
Anibal Scheid: You need to get down to basics, is marring an atheist denying your faith? Your fear to take up this question with him has me worried. Usually, I would say,"nope, no worries". You can have a non-religious ceremony. But it seems to already be bringing up basic questions on how you will live your married life. Is he a true atheist? Does he completely reject the idea that there is no God, no higher power? If so, then there is a bigger rift between you two that needs thought and discussion. Blessings to you, Chaplain Debby If you would like, you can e-mail me at a! ny time!...Show more
Salvador Prchlik: No, open bar is a privelig! e in a wedding. But it is more convieniet for your guests.
Malissa Porth: I assume that you are having more then Swedish meatballsat you reception! If so phone a few places and schedule an appointment to sample some their dishes this way you will know whom you should get to to do the Catering for your reception. Or you can make them ahead of time let's say in March and freeze them ,or check out M&M and taste the ones that they have ,their food is very good and less expensive then a Caterer would charge for them ,you can have someone cook them for you the day of your wedding and bring them to the hall in a slow cooker or rent a warmer from the hall or a Party Place....Show more
Donella Vasta: I don't think so. That can get kind of spendy- we just had free beer.
Julee Lanham: HiWe are finding it difficult to decide whether to have our wedding in the Hunter Valley NSW or in Palm Cove QLD. We are from Newcastle, so Palm Cove will be a destination wedding. We h! ave some concerns about having a destination wedding, finding DESCENT suppliers, getting a band we love, the right time of year for our honeymoon to Asia. All things seem to lead to NSW being much easier.Can anyone shed some light on the pros and cons for a destination wedding and some feedback on the Angsana Resort, Palm Cove or the Margan Estate in the Hunter Valley!Thanks for your timeCategoryFamily & Relationships > Weddings...Show more
August Hubbard: Well, you aren't going to want to try just any, it will be important to try them from the caterer you are going to use. Call a few caterers in your area and see if they do them. Once you find a few, set up sessions with each so that you can taste the meatballs and a few other foods that you might use. Then go from there.BTW- If you just want to try a generic one, I think you can get them in the freezer section of most grocery stores....Show more
Lanita Reichman: I don't know if it's expected, but I think it! 's the courteous thing to do. Mostly because (1) it's a party and celeb! ration (2) people are giving the bride and groom very expensive gifts, and these people might have traveled a long way to come to the wedding. I think it's rude that these people (who have spent a lot of time and money) to have to pay for their own drinks. It's just me. I think an open bar is a nice way to help everyone relax and enjoy the party!
Darrel Stele: You forgot to include your city and state... :)A destination wedding sounds fun, but when you are away from home, it can mean disarray of things, unless you are very organized and have done great follow up on your leads for the area. How elaborate? Is money not a problem? Or are you on a tight budget. At your destination wedding, is the wedding for you and your husband only? Or do you want Friends and family to go on your destination wedding with you.My husband and I did Christian Wedding Cruises for years. I could go on and on, but I think you get the point. You can hire a wedding planner to help you with ! all the pros or cons or just ask a well informed friend or family member to be your planner.Have a beautiful wedding and a wonderful life!! Leah...Show more
Marcia Cheathan: Absolutaly not! and people attending your wedding shouldnt get offended because its your wedding and just because they didnt get to drink dosent mean they get to tell you about it!!!
Roland Stampley: I think that might be the first of many religion related problems. Is your faith non-negotiable? How important is it to you? Do you want your children brought up with the same faith as yours? If you answered YES to any or all of these questions, better think again about getting married. Like the other posters said, a wedding is for ONE day only, a marriage is for a lifetime.When my fiance was courting me, he was a non-practicing Catholic (about to convert to another religion) and I am a Baptist. I told him straight up that I could not see myself with anyone who was not a Christian. Now, he is th! e one reminding me when our growth group meets and what church service ! we will attend....Show more
Clemmie Burkleo: It depends. Something more you should be concerned with - more than just the ceremony - is what your lives will be like together in regard to faith once you are married, and especially if you plan to have children.I wanted to have a husband and a family to be of the same faith as me, so that's why I chose a husband carefully - of similar background, values and morals - so our future would be harmonious, because those were important things for me.You have to think of - how will you be able to handle not celebrating Christmas, Easter, other holy days? Not being with your family for those events, because your husband isn't a believer? How do you want your children raised? Does he promote abortion? There are MANY things you and he have to get straight way before you get married!...Show more
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